The Knowledge Bully

The knowledge bully is a bully with the full armor of mastery at their disposal ready to fill in the gaps and to use a one-up-person-ship to gain the advantage over others. The knowledge bully may hide information and silo communication rather than share and collaborate with others. Unmet needs fueled by low self-esteem and self-concept are the catalysts for creating knowledge bullies, and toxic work environments inhibit the healing and growth needed for these bullies to assimilate with other work teams again. Detoxifying work environments begin with the mission and values of the organization and an in-depth look at the reward and recognition systems. -Dr. Stewart pictureyourselfstronger@yahoo.com

Finding the Good in the Workplace Bully

The Peaceful Protester's Dilemma

There are similarities and differences between peaceful protesters and angry mobs or rioters. A peaceful protester and an angry riotous mob are similar in that they are symbolic of a system problem of unheard and unaddressed needs. However, the two groups are different in that intentional harm is the motive for riotous mobs, and peaceful protesters march without harming others to be heard. When the two groups merge, a new system problem emerges to form a triad consisting of bullies, victims, and bystanders. In this group, bullies lead the aggressive acts, victims feel punished, and bystanders are held responsible for the bullies' coercive power. Unfortunately, no one hears either group, and unmet needs continue. While rioting and protesting produce results, the question becomes, is it the most efficient use of talent to achieve change that results in being heard and unmet needs addressed? -Dr. Stewart
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Social Distancing and the Bully

Social distancing is a unique situation that might reduce bully-type behaviors from individuals who may prey on the marginalized. Without an audience or the rewards found in social groups, the bully may seek other ways to satisfy their unhealthy unmet needs and drives. However, there are bully personalities who thrive on microaggression and covert methods to maintain an imbalance of power when separated from their target. When individuals are advised to practice social distancing, the bystander becomes essential as they can be the protective shield from bully-type behaviors by using the approved distance communication methods to stay in touch with those who are quarantined or practicing social distancing. The bystander might be a neighbor, family member, coworker, or other agency helpers who can listen, advise, and report the abuse of the marginalized in isolation.

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Mass Shooters and Psychopathy

Mass Shootings are terrifying and are changing our culture to one of confusion-based fear. As a society, we have not begun to identify why mass shootings occur in our nation. It is easy to place the blame on guns or violent video games, or the moral decay of the family. However, a mass shooter is an individual who has specific motives and intentions to harm others. The justification for hurting others may not be relevant to anyone but the shooter.

Psychopathy is often used to describe mass shooters. However, psychopathy is a spectrum disorder with a wide range of linked conditions that describe various symptoms and traits. Psychopathy is challenging to diagnose and treat because mass shooters are calloused and without the same ability to experience pleasure and recognition from established societal values and reward systems.

Building Tenacious Victims and Bystanders

Dr. Debra Stewart

Why is it so hard to identify the covert bully in the workplace? Especially when there are employees who endure the behavior but become unresponsive and too inhibited to demonstrate helping behaviors or identify the perpetrator. In the presence of a bully, the behavior exhibited by the victim and the bystander goes beyond apathy to fear-based.  According to Dr. Albrecht, there are five fears common to humans.

Fear Types:
(1) fear of extinction,
(2) fear of body mutilation or invasion,
(3) loss of autonomy,
(4) fear of separation, abandonment or rejection,
(5) ego-death or fear of humiliation, shame, or worthlessness.

Since bullying is a system problem, the diffusion of responsibility to report bully behavior becomes rationalized because of the fears embedded in the workplace culture. As an organization, how do you change workplace fear-based behavior to a tenacious cohesive environment that seeks and values a bully-free work environment? The answer is in evaluating the value and reward systems that foster the embedding of the five fear types into your organizational memories and stories.

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Bullying is a Significant Problem Across all Age Spans

Dr. Debra Stewart

Bullying is a significant problem across all age spans. Bully-type behavior can range from the simplest playground skirmishes to sophisticated misinterpretation or dismissal of personal responsibility toward protecting humankind. Callous-unemotional traits primarily consist of lack of empathy or guilt which could be caused by a variety of developmental disability, environmental factors such as unmet needs, and other inherited conduct problems. According to the American Psychiatric Association's DSM-5 diagnostic manual, bullying is a diagnostic criterion for Conduct Disorder for children and teens and according to research if left untreated may emerge later as psychopathy in adults. Therefore, bullying is a mental health concern that should be taken seriously at every stage of development.

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