Wednesday, January 15, 2020

Finding a Hero Within the Bully Triad

Within the bully triad, there are abundant opportunities for positive change; however, it will not happen without an educational intervention. The bully, the victim, and the bystander have one of the most unhealthy social connection known to man. Interdependent until there is a forced interruption in the cycle, the bully triad will repeat the unhealthy alliance until members step out of the dynamic to become heroes. Dr. Zimbardo is known for his work on the psychology of evil, has recently turned his research focus on how people can turn daily challenges into opportunities for everyday heroism. For some, the heroism will be those who teach about the difference between good and evil; for others, it will be the policy change agents, some will be the protectors of values, and others will stand with the marginalized. 

Friday, December 27, 2019

Bullying and Moral Injury

The bully triad consists of the bully, the bystander, and the victim. When bullying occurs, the toxic relationship between members creates moral injury. Moral injury occurs in individuals and groups when forced participation of events occurs either through active or passive means, where the violation of member values and beliefs or spirituality are disrespected and reduces the meaning and significance of life. Moral injury for the bully triad members creates feelings of emotional guilt and shame, betrayal, and cognitive dissonance. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), suicidal ideation, bullying, and victims of war, abuse, rape, and trauma all have a causal link to moral injury, which makes treatment and recovery difficult. 

Friday, October 25, 2019

Bully Prevention Tip # 3: Create a Bully-Free Cost Structure

The bully-free cost structure is an abstract concept that is often buried within other budgets and attended too only in crisis. A bully management and prevention program requires a specific budget that will include continuous improvement in the organizational culture, communities, and home environments. For example, outdated policies and procedures may need to be rewritten, and employee assistance programs implemented and funds reserved for personal counseling as needed. However, don't overlook the shared and free resources in the community that might provide substantial support and shelter.

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

Bully Prevention Tip # 2: Fill the Knowledge Gap

Once bullying occurs, there seems to be a knowledge gap on what to do next. Individuals and organizations must become knowledgeable of the laws, policies, and regulations regarding bully-type events. Questions to ask are what the state and local laws regarding harassment, extortion, hate crimes, bullying, assault, stalking, or cyberbullying are so that protective action is possible. If the bullying event is determined to be criminal, then the individual or organization must seek legal counsel and act as advised.  Also, the protection of the victim or victims is critical at all times to avoid further harm or harassment.

Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Bully Prevention Tip # 1: Discover the Unmet Needs

Individuals who have self-actualized are less likely to become bullies because they have achieved their highest needs. Self-actualization is a state of congruence between the real and the ideal self. Any disequilibrium between the real and the ideal self creates actual or perceived unmet needs, which are often drivers for bully-type behaviors. Therefore, the first step in bully prevention is to discover the unmet needs of the bully, the victim, and of the organization or school.