Thursday, January 31, 2019

Situational Bullying



Bullying can be situational especially when the event is out of character or a response to environmental stressors. Usually, when this happens, the victim is asked to understand the situation or dismiss the incident, which may not be the best advice for all parties involved. For example, while waiting in line at school, a little boy from the third grade suddenly pushed a little girl down and stood on her chest. She could not breathe well as the boy was much more prominent in size and she began to panic. Bystanders included teachers and students ignored the bullying in the crowded hall. Fortunately, a teacher finally intervened, and according to the story, the teacher explained to the little girl that the boy's mother had just passed away which was an effort to explain the little boy's sudden act of violence. As the little girl remembers she understood what the teacher was saying and felt empathy for the boy, and the event was dismissed as if it never happened. The little boy moved to another school without anyone acknowledging his grief or someone coaching him on how to manage his anger. The little girl continued her usual pursuits, and the incident was not remembered until a similar feeling of helplessness occurred when the girl was much older, and the panic attack returned.   The bystanders in the crowded hall accommodated the event by adding it to their absolute threshold of detection by the human senses to ignore another bully event.





Sunday, January 27, 2019

Missing the Symptoms


Bullies often described as someone being different or a bit odd in their childhood, adolescence, or early adulthood have an enduring pattern of identity crises, chaotic self-direction, lack of empathy, hypersensitivity to criticism, and intimacy. These fragmented artifacts of various personality disorders confuse school administrators, educators, and workplace leaders because the bully can also be charismatic individuals waiting to save the day on their terms. School-related acts of violence or mass school or workplace shootings involve individuals who exhibited these warning signs in a consistent and enduring pattern. However, leaders and administrators dismissed the symptoms under the labels of someone being different or a bit odd.




Thursday, January 3, 2019

Bully Management and Prevention: Healthy vs Toxic


 
Dr. Stewart: Bully Management and Prevention Specialist
Having goals and feeling challenged at work often involves competition for resources whether that means gaining the attention of higher level experts or the funds and resources necessary to test theories. Acquiring those needs in the name of creativity and innovation in a healthy work environment produces healthy personal challenges and competition. Demanding the same results in a toxic workplace environment often breeds insecurity and self-doubt. When access to expert help or resources are limited inconsistently or denied without sound reasoning, and convincing logic those very same workplace challenges and competition may begin to feel dirty and not worth the personal loss of integrity and values. However, for some employees, this is the perfect environment to assume the role of the bully to achieve results.






Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Bully Management and Prevention: System Problems





In an effort to avoid lawsuits and low employee morale, managers encourage victims and bystanders to see the bullying situation as never being their fault. However, if bullying is fostered by unhealthy organizational environments and toxic workplaces, then the very existence of the bully triad is a system problem and not necessarily an individual employee bully problem. Organizational wellness requires support from the top down, especially when it comes to change that focuses on supportive relationships, feedback, and conflict resolution. In a bully triad, members switch roles and often learn the dysfunctional responses that work during a bully event. Seeing the bully triad as a group in need of assessment, care, and realignment will help everyone to see the problem holistically.